Article in Shoppers Stop's inhouse "First Update" magazine

Forgive your boss. Here is how and why...

Most of you might want to read this post just for curiosity. :) Y is this crazy lady asking us to forgive our boss???
Some lucky ones might not feel the need coz they have excellent bosses. Some must be so filled with anger that forgiveness is so out of the question, that they might not even read it. I hope curiosity brings the ones who really need to hear this, here. Well, whoever you are, hope you are able to lead a better life after reading this. Stories are always welcome, Infact, I love listening to it. So pls do share. Also, feel free to share this post with people u know will need to read.

Boss - A mysterious creature, ain't he? For many, it is possible that he is the same guy whom they shared lunch with, but now, make faces when he enters on your lunch time. :P

The picture just says it all. Bosses truly don't know what to with the power they have been given. Most are forced leader. I have a true story to share.

Just few months back, I had a handwriting sample for a Pre Employment scan. It was for some senior position in the company that wanted to hire him, I had not been given any other specifics about function to check, it was just a simple analysis. I sent the report and I got a call back asking how is this guy not a good leader. I was taken aback. I didn't know how to explain. I told them that as per his handwriting, though he is very straight forward, simple, fast thinker and hardworking. The following were my additional exact comments - Balanced individual. Clean heart and hence slightly short tempered. Also if time taken to analyse handwriting can be considered as the time to judge the individual, then this analysis took me half the time as the first one. I am guessing he will come with no pretenses and will be able to judge and analyse. But am sorry that he is not a good leader. "He is very highly recommended and He is currently the AGM, He is to be hired for Head position, and he has a flawless track record. How can he not be a good leader" was the reply.
I told them that he isn't. Please check on him. Was he forced to a leadership position? Did he have to struggle a lot in the start? now, does he treat himself as a leader or just like a captain? He has a lot of good qualities like being straight but also kind and he is hardworking so his subordinates will learn a lot. This could make him a good person to be in charge of that position, Also, his stress management skills are high, so it has taken him time to be in charge of that position and lead but he is not a very good leader intrinsically and takes some time to adjust to new situations, but will do well.

They didn't get back to me for sometime, but when they did, I was told that it is very much possible that he was forced into a leadership position. NOW, Think about your boss. Does he have good leadership skills? Probably no, because you are reading this article.What exactly is a leader? As per graphology, he is someone who has vision, thinks big and is not good with getting in the small details but would very well want you to do it. He has a slightly inflated ego that needs little bit of air every now and then. But at the end of the day, he is a human being just like you. He too has his boss to report to. Maybe even worse at managing self than your boss is.

Possible na? He is not a good boss because he is not good at managing his self. BUT just because he is not good at managing his self, doesn't mean that you should too? Forgive him. There is just no point in spoiling your mood because of him. Worrying they say is a waste of imagination. So, All you lovely people and my friend PJ, don't waste a single moment in sadness because of your boss. Smile and chill. Forgive him for not being a good boss. At the same time, learn from his mistakes and promise yourself that you will be a lot better boss.

Good luck.
Keep smiling.
Keep learning.
Keep Growing!

Even ur fears can be good!

I got a call from a lady whom I had analysed some 2-3 years back. Her daughter turned 18 and she wanted to get her Children Analysis done.

After the analysis this lady sat next to me and told me that the statement I had told her some years back actually came true. I wondered what it was and she told me that I had told her to accept her fears also, who knew what good might come from it. I asked what it was and she told me that she recently had to travel in train alone and that too in III tier.

She is very very very afraid of mice and to her dismay, she saw a small mouse in her bogey. She was so scared to see the mouse that she just couldn't fall asleep. She was trying to tell herself that it is okay and the mouse won't bother maybe and she should fall asleep but her mind just didn't come to rest. While all this was happening, she saw a hand come from the top towards her purse. She screamed and it turns out the man was arrested as the police was looking for him or something of that sorts. She didn't know the proper story but the amazing thing is that her money and passport. She thanked the mouse and though she couldn't sleep after all this excitement, she thought of connecting with me too. Though this too took long, we both giggled at this episode yesterday.

Well, what can I say, Accept ur fears. U never know what good might come out of it.