Writing slowly helped someone. So happy to receive this mail

I have received this mail from a ayurvedic doctor who doesn't wish to be named. He is an amazing human being who read the article published in "New Woman" and implemented the slow writing on a patient. 


The best part is that he took the trouble to write this mail for me.

A female patient age 43yrs, approached at my clinic complaining of following symptoms

• Depression without reason, 
• Mood swings and mental disturbance with some or the other reason since last 6 to 8 months.
• Other physical Complaints when asked she said its not much 
• Sometimes feels weak, 
• Indigestion, 
• Lack of appetite,
• Irregular periods with irregular flow and duration. 
• She was more irritated and restless all the time. 
• She was not happy and unable to enjoy peace of mind . 
• She experienced negative moods and also with memory problems.

When I checked her pulse I diagnosed her as a patient into the menopausal phase with all the menopausal symptoms and second due the hormonal changes she was also affected mentally first and then physically.

Advised her with following things

1. Meditation on daily basis.
2. Walks on daily basis
3. Diet which will be easy for her to digest
4. And Advised her to do things slowly and a little thoughtfully. Like whenever she writes she should try and write slowly rather than hurry and try to finish faster.
5. Adv her to do all her physical activities with a stable speed like walking, talking and writing too
6. As I had read a article that if we write slowly it also helps to improve memory and mental irritation or problems with a confused overstressed mind.
7. Rest all was taken care by the medicines I had given.

After 2 wks of this advice  when the patient came for a routine followup she presented herslf as follows

1.       I am felling much better

2.       I am feeling happy internally

3.       I am not confused as I was

4.       My digestion is also better

5.       I am feeling fresh

6.       I feel like doing things and there is much reduced –ve  thoughts and mental irritation.

I asked are u doing ur meditation regularly and the other thing what I had advised. She said yes. And also mentioned That writing reading and doing my actions at a little slow speed than what I was doing is helping me to do my things more confidently. I am able to do it with confidence and relaxed my. Initially I was worried for all the things that I used to do and not at all satisfied.Now I can also remember things better than before.

Listening to this even I thought that she had surely benefitted from the type of attitude towards doing things slowly has helpd her to gain her physical and mental health back to normal.

She herself said she was feeling 10 to 20 % better just in 15 days.

I was really happy and thanks to u sunayna for writing the article.

Thanks

It feels so good to receive genuine feedback and having helped someone. There are so many gimmicks that we see around and one feels that we may lose out on marketing. And when one writes an article, there is always a cloud of fear whether people will actually read the whole article and understand it the way it is meant. So when you receive something you know is genuine and so fantastic, it sends you on cloud 9. I am happier than i was at the time of the article's publication :P

How do you tell a person who has an ego that he has an ego?

I recently met a Civil engineer. He had a career shift from a BMC worker to a highly successful and good earning Civil Engineer. It is not totally his fault that he has full faith in himself and not so much on God almighty. He believes that he is a self made man. In other words, I am trying to justify his reasons for being egoistic.

On top of it, he is a very very selective listener. If things don't sound correct, he makes it very clear. Not just this, he is also short tempered. If one tries to make him understand the logic, but it is not something he wants to hear... then... I had a very hard time during the analysis. I was surprised when he came for the analysis in the first place, Individuals who are so sure of themselves, rarely come to me. Later I learned that it was his wife who forced him citing some issues with coworkers at work.

Normally, when I analyse, I start with things that are intrinsic to the individual's behavior and is slightly uncommon. I started the analysis with something funny. He smiled. Next analysis was also intrinsic and present in almost all his strokes, He gave me an Ok but seemed to be thinking about it. I told him that if he wants to explain something in detail, I would be happy to. As I keep saying, Graphology is scientific and can't be wrong. Only time it may seem wrong is when I don't word it properly or give a wrong example.

What happens is there is a trait - You have good aesthetic sense. 


Manifestations

• You can be good at matching colors - not just for clothes but also for curtains, walls etc
• Your sense of design can be good.
• The prints (if)that you buy (for curtains, towels, bedsheets, dress for wife, handicrafts) can be very pretty and look terrific at home. Because of your keep sense, you probably match it with your home decor, Others might look at it as a piece alone and not like it. There are several other manifestations of the trait 

So, When I mention the trait in the analysis and it doesn't make sense, I try to give the manifestations. It might not be all true but It surely does help reaching to the point.

With this gentleman, He stopped me with the first manifestation and replied that I was wrong. This went on for next 15 minutes even though all the traits that I was saying were positive and present in all the letters. The only thing he sort of agreed though very reluctantly was to stomach issues. He said - Yes, very little. 

Later, his wife told me that he suffers from constipation often. 

Anyway, I decided to be honest with him in the most gentle way I knew. I told him that the issues he was facing was because of a few reasons. He didn't agree to it completely but at this time, his wife got the courage to tell him that I was right. When I gave him the 4th manifestation and he sort of said ok if not yes, I told him that all the manifestations I have given so far mean that he has an ego. He almost jumped from his seat. No one who has an ego likes to be told or agrees to it. I didn't know what to say much, He obviously disagreed and we ended the session soon after that.

This has been the most exciting and thrilling experience during an analysis for me. I still don't have an answer to this. How do I tell a person who has an ego that he has an ego? He is obviously not going to listen to me. 

Ironic na? It is like a mad man trying to prove he is not mad.

Full 100%

Perfectionist are so hard to please... I was at an event recently and there was a form to be filled by the people we graphologists analysed. It had basic feedback questions like how was the analysis etc. There was on question that really bugged me. "What is the level of accuracy?"
I got a range between 90 to 99%.

After they handed back the form, I wondered what was wrong. So I started asking people. What part felt wrong. Why is the result not 100%???

Thankfully none had an answer. They just didn't feel like giving 100% until there was this one lady who gave me 99.99% It was so weird. I asked her why. She said because there is always room for improvement. Now this I understand. and now i wholeheartedly accept, even the 90% :)