Reliance Capital event organized by Super Seva.

Super Seva (http://www.superseva.com/) organized a handwriting analysis event at Reliance Capital, Wadala on 8th Aug 12. With time, I am realizing that some people like to analyse their handwritings for the experience of it. 

A lady really laughed at a statement i said and just couldn't stop laughing. She was so amazed that she ended up calling a lot of her friends to be analyzed. I told her that she nags and her maids have a very bad time. It is not a very big thing to analyse. She later told me that she had just come to office after having a quarrel with her maid.  

There is this other lady who couldn't believe that I told her that she loved to sleep a lot. It was such a normal thing to say. She said that I must have read it from the other page. She even showed me that where she had written. Amazingly and honestly, I had not come to that page. We were both giggling like school girls and ended up disturbing everyone there. 

A fabulous event indeed !

March 2012 - New Woman Article - Write your way to Health and Happiness slowly.

An article about me, Graphology, benefits of graphology and a way to live better by writing slowly.... in the magazine - New Woman. Issue of March 2012. Life is kind...and everything cannot be perfect..a learning after reading the article...they have written everything perfectly except the contact details...;) Anyway, You know where to find me - http://sos4graphology.com/

For those who have trouble reading it, here is the draft I had sent to the mag. It is more or less the same.

Have you faced the following issues?

• Forgot to switch off the gas after keeping it on sim?
• Asked your neighbor to check if you had locked the door?
• Done with the bath but forgot to switch off the Geyser?
• Called home to check if you had switched off the lights and fan?
• Walked in the room and forgot the reason?
• Feeling more irritated about memory issues?

Each one of you reading this may be having many more experiences to share. We generally laugh about such instances but what we don’t realize is that such events can be dangerous. Why don’t we do something about this? Probably because we don’t really understand the reason behind such behaviour and label it as memory loss or ageing and accept it into our daily life.

So why do we forget? One of the reasons why we forget these activities in day today life is because our living has become fast. It has become so rapid that most of us don’t know how to handle it and hence we try to do more than 1 thing at a time. “Our mind is over worked” says Kunjal Shah, psychotherapist and counseling therapist of Don Bosco College. She adds that we have become absent minded and we really need to slow down. We have become obsessed with the peripherals of living and our daily functioning has taken a backseat because of it.

What really is happening is that our conscious mind is one track mind. We can think of only 1 thought at a time. Try it! Try not thinking about feeling cold and you will start feeling cold. So, when we jump tasks, our conscious mind forgets to register the tasks. 

Example, you are making your last chapatti and you keep the gas on sim 

– Task 1. Your kid asks for chapatti, you put this last chapatti in the basket and go to give it to him 

– Task 2. While you are out in the dining area, you see that he needs more bhaji and you give it to him 

– Task 3. In this while, your husband asks you to sit down for dinner and you do which unfortunately becomes task 4 and by now you have no memory or concern for task 1 the gas kept on sim.

These are still small frivolous sounding issues. Kunjal Shah shares a case she read in “The Man Who Mistook His Wife for a Hat and Other Clinical Tales” is a 1985 book by neurologist Oliver Sacks about a musical genius who was biologically perfect but suffered from Visual agnosia. He chose and strongly desired to focus on music and disregarded almost everything to the extent of forming an imbalance in life, of which this was a severe case says Kunjal. When we get used to our surroundings, and take the situations as granted, we slowly act mechanical. He had trained his mind for music and took other things for granted. This caused him to not use most of his other senses. If you replaced the tooth paste with foot cream, he wouldn’t notice and brush.

Slow down but how? The issues that have come up are not something new and there are thousands of articles that you must have read which talk about slowing down. Doing one thing at one time and doing it with concentration. But how? Sunayna Navani, a well known graphologist says to write slowly.

Write everything slowly. Sign to the courier boy slowly and not in haste. Sign your kid’s report card slowly. Fill details on the cheque slowly. Practice writing slowly before bed.

Benefits

• You will become less mechanical
• You will be more aware
• You will not take yourself or your surroundings for granted.
• You will understand reasons behind doing things.
• You will gain clarity
• You will understand yourself
• You will achieve good results
• Memory will definitely improve
• Your success rate will increase.

Scientifically, how will writing slowly help?

“The greatest invention of all must surely be writing. It is not just one of the foundations of civilisation: it underpins the steady accumulation of intellectual achievement. By capturing ideas in physical form, it allows them to travel across space and time without distortion, and thus slip the bonds of human memory and oral transmission, not to mention the whims of tyrants and the vicissitudes of history” says Tom Standage, author of "An Edible History of Humanity".

A pen in hand is mightier than a sword’ goes the age old saying. Most of us remember this from School. Few of us actually realize the essence of it and even fewer practice it. Handwriting is also called "Brainwriting" simply because it is a remarkable reflection of our personal styles and our patterns of behaviour.  We write with the pen which is in control of our muscles of our thumb and fingers and our limbs which also happen to occupy a huge space in our mind. Each vibration of movement is unconsciously directed by the brain says Sunayna.

When you write slowly, you start instructing and in effect controlling your mind. This helps you to take charge and be aware. Really, try it for few days before dismissing it completely. “This idea came to me last year when I wanted to control my anger. I had club strokes in my handwriting, the only way to remove them is to write slowly” says Sunayna. Club strokes are the effect of the pen thinning in the end when you write very fast.

Sunayna also made her family write slowly and found her mom breathing more deeply than usual. My aunt has become more alert than before about everything. I suggested this to a VP who felt guilty after every argument and was ready to try anything. Sadly he is still not reached where he wants but agrees that there are slow and subtle effects and it surely helps each one who is taking the effort to write slowly.

What else can Graphology help you with?

Graphology is a tool to understand yourself and the world around you BETTER. Graphology is often mistaken to be handwriting analysis but graphology is much more than that. Graphology helps us judge the mental state of the writer. It is a guide to the will power, intellect and emotions of a person and much more.

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About Sunayna - The corporate world didn't hold her interest for long and a 9 to 5 didn't appeal her one bit. So, She took a break, sorted things and converted her hobbies into her occupation. She started art with sunayna (www.artwithsunayna.wordpress.com) to teach and sell earrings and cards made from quilling and donate... and became a full time graphologist. She uses mix of Graphology, affirmations and healing to help you understand yourself and the world around you better or get a good life partner or help Organizations hire better.

About SOS

SOS4Graphology is Sunayna’s Optimum Solution for Graphology started by me, Sunayna Navani. I was hooked to graphology since 2003. I have analyzed over 5000 signature samples and 2500 drawing samples. I have analyzed signatures and helped everyone from CEO’s to housewives and would be happy to assist you too. 

The Workaholics have got it wrong

Have you ever had a fight at home and gone to work thanking god your work life is better??

Are you a better and happy person at work than at home?

Are you deluding yourself by being occupied by work?

You need to read this article. If you belong to the HR department, you need to put this article on your notice board and ensure that your Human Resources are happy everywhere... at home and at work. 

http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/home/science/Unhappy-at-home-Losing-yourself-in-work-doesnt-help/articleshow/11015382.cms 

Professor Yannis Gargles at Kingston University in London, one of the researchers, said: "The life and work domains are definitely correlated. Happiness at home affects your job and vice versa.

"Although there is a clear 'spillover' effect from one area of life to the other, there is no evidence that people who are very unhappy at home will feel 'compensated' by work in any way."

The researchers came to the conclusion on an analysis of a survey of 10,000 people across 30 European countries.

If you believe that staying late at work will save you from your home life, you are mistaken. Running away from issues is not going to solve your problems.

A simple example – If you fall down and hurt your knee, do you GET UP and Bandage it or do you divert your mind to something else (like working or cribbing about the pain) and let it bleed?

The answer is obvious, isn’t it?

Then why do you let your life bleed in these small issues that come to everyone but are expanded out of proportion with each passing day? 

It must be fear. I see it happen almost everyday. People ask me what graphology can disclose? I find people scared of graphologists. They ask about the traits that it can disclose and not the cost of the service. Why are we so worried? Why are we so scared of finding ourselves? Didn't Franklin D. Roosevelt say that There is nothing to fear but fear itself?

Hope her LOVE wins

I am probably not the right person to understand the madness that comes along with love but I sure hope that there is some sense in that madness. I met this really pretty lady, almost the same age as mine who came to me for Pre-marriage Compatibility. She had come for signature analysis first and I told her all I could about the guy. She seemed satisfied. I told her that the sign tells you about how he is to the outside world and not his true personality. She was happy with the signature analysis and didn't want to know further.

I don't know how or why, but suddenly now, after about 8 months she called me and told me to analyze his handwriting. The first thing that struck me was the violent nature. Also, the stress factor in signature was slightly higher than last time. I asked her if things were fine and she assured me that the curiosity got the best of her and everything else was fine. I asked her if he was extra aggressive and she said no. They have been a couple past a year now and she told me that things were still smooth and nothing is the issue. I had to confront her now. It was either that she wasn't fooling herself or maybe she was trying to fool everyone else. I told her that he is someone who would love someone a lot but is also possessive and aggressive. Not just that, he can also be violent if provoked. She didn't look surprised to me but she didn't accept the analysis and said that he was the sweetest person she met and he didn't harm anyone. I tried to explain things to her, There are times when I get so desperate for the opposite person to understand, I even show them the letters that signify the trait as if they would understand better. I realized this recently and laughed at myself for doing it Anyway, I showed her the letters and also explained that this was the honeymoon stage probably and she should try to think about it objectively. She gave me a few filmi dialouges and I didn't know what to tell her but I showed her the letters again. To this she told me that he had told her about his previous girlfriend and the reason they had broken off was because she didn't listen to him and went out with her group of friends which included boys. I don't like to interfere and be judgmental but I told her that this was upto her but from where I saw it, she was clearly ignoring the signs. She gave me a filmi answer again - What if my love is changing him? This statement is still echoing in my mind and I don't know the answer yet. I hope her love wins. Love conquers all ne?

Sales team caused unnecessary stess

I was recently chatting with the talent acquisition partner of a premier bank. It was a mini analysis that his wife had gifted him. It was going well. It showed that he took unnecessary stress which was causing him sleep problems. Stress is anyways mostly unnecessary and was more so in his case, I told him so. He snapped back saying that "It isn't unnecessary, we are facing high attrition at sales" It was too quick for me to respond. "Good people are going, and the ones that should leave are still here" I looked at his handwriting again, he sure did have a pessimistic and narrow approach to life. "Anyone else leaving doesn't cause nightmares as the sales or business development fellow because if he is good, then he will take the good HNI clients with him. We have increased our engagement activities and its too soon to tell but the boss is losing patience. How can I not get stressed?"

I asked him if he would want to drink water. After a quick gulp, he asked me again "The sales guys are just so temperamental and united... Head jaayega toh team bhi le jaayega." I told him that I understood and I have a solution if only he allowed me to talk. "It is unnecessary stress and can be taken care of. Graphology can help hire candidates who are good at sales and can also tell you if they will stay in your company or not."

He cut me mid statement saying - crystal ball may, but how will graphology?


Handwriting or signature analysis of the candidate can judge the candidates

• temperamental nature or impulsiveness
• ambition and greed
• ability to sell and communicate.

Graphology is the simplest and safest way of accurately judging him/her without the candidate even being aware of it. 


If you find a guy who is low on the first, moderate on second and high on the third trait, hire him and try to keep him happy instead of someone who is so impulsive and carefree that might change jobs even for a measly hike.


Every hiring mistake can cost the company thousands while contributing to poor moral and negative feelings among employees. (There are so many other benefits that graphology can give you while hiring, but i believe that this blog is not the right place, please feel free to mail me at sunayna.navani@gmail.com to know more.)


He didn't say anything. 


Its worth giving a shot I said.


Boss will not agree to such things. I replied, "More than 90% European companies hire through graphology. Few companies in India are getting wise enough to use it and benefit from it. He smiled - I continued, There is a way out but most people wait for others to try, What they unfortunately don't realize is that they are losing money, goodwill, peace in organization.


His stress is unnecessary, he didn't agree to the solution. Wonder what is it that stops people from giving it a try.

The process is the cure.

I believe graphology is the only medium where the process of analysis becomes the cure in itself.

There is nothing much needed after the analysis session. I see individuals feel the impact with each statement. It is like every truth is setting them free. Each statement of analysis helps you heal yourself and uncover your true self like the layers of the onion...and just like the onion, you realize there is nothing much to you. We worry so unnecessarily. We worry and form an image and use that image to scare ourselves. There are times when people call me for 4 to 5 days at a stretch, ask all the possible questions in the world related to graphology and end up not coming to me at all. Maybe coming to an analysis includes letting go of fear.

Maybe those who come to me are already on the journey to heal themselves.