Forgive your boss. Here is how and why...

Most of you might want to read this post just for curiosity. :) Y is this crazy lady asking us to forgive our boss???
Some lucky ones might not feel the need coz they have excellent bosses. Some must be so filled with anger that forgiveness is so out of the question, that they might not even read it. I hope curiosity brings the ones who really need to hear this, here. Well, whoever you are, hope you are able to lead a better life after reading this. Stories are always welcome, Infact, I love listening to it. So pls do share. Also, feel free to share this post with people u know will need to read.

Boss - A mysterious creature, ain't he? For many, it is possible that he is the same guy whom they shared lunch with, but now, make faces when he enters on your lunch time. :P

The picture just says it all. Bosses truly don't know what to with the power they have been given. Most are forced leader. I have a true story to share.

Just few months back, I had a handwriting sample for a Pre Employment scan. It was for some senior position in the company that wanted to hire him, I had not been given any other specifics about function to check, it was just a simple analysis. I sent the report and I got a call back asking how is this guy not a good leader. I was taken aback. I didn't know how to explain. I told them that as per his handwriting, though he is very straight forward, simple, fast thinker and hardworking. The following were my additional exact comments - Balanced individual. Clean heart and hence slightly short tempered. Also if time taken to analyse handwriting can be considered as the time to judge the individual, then this analysis took me half the time as the first one. I am guessing he will come with no pretenses and will be able to judge and analyse. But am sorry that he is not a good leader. "He is very highly recommended and He is currently the AGM, He is to be hired for Head position, and he has a flawless track record. How can he not be a good leader" was the reply.
I told them that he isn't. Please check on him. Was he forced to a leadership position? Did he have to struggle a lot in the start? now, does he treat himself as a leader or just like a captain? He has a lot of good qualities like being straight but also kind and he is hardworking so his subordinates will learn a lot. This could make him a good person to be in charge of that position, Also, his stress management skills are high, so it has taken him time to be in charge of that position and lead but he is not a very good leader intrinsically and takes some time to adjust to new situations, but will do well.

They didn't get back to me for sometime, but when they did, I was told that it is very much possible that he was forced into a leadership position. NOW, Think about your boss. Does he have good leadership skills? Probably no, because you are reading this article.What exactly is a leader? As per graphology, he is someone who has vision, thinks big and is not good with getting in the small details but would very well want you to do it. He has a slightly inflated ego that needs little bit of air every now and then. But at the end of the day, he is a human being just like you. He too has his boss to report to. Maybe even worse at managing self than your boss is.

Possible na? He is not a good boss because he is not good at managing his self. BUT just because he is not good at managing his self, doesn't mean that you should too? Forgive him. There is just no point in spoiling your mood because of him. Worrying they say is a waste of imagination. So, All you lovely people and my friend PJ, don't waste a single moment in sadness because of your boss. Smile and chill. Forgive him for not being a good boss. At the same time, learn from his mistakes and promise yourself that you will be a lot better boss.

Good luck.
Keep smiling.
Keep learning.
Keep Growing!

Hope her LOVE wins

I am probably not the right person to understand the madness that comes along with love but I sure hope that there is some sense in that madness. I met this really pretty lady, almost the same age as mine who came to me for Pre-marriage Compatibility. She had come for signature analysis first and I told her all I could about the guy. She seemed satisfied. I told her that the sign tells you about how he is to the outside world and not his true personality. She was happy with the signature analysis and didn't want to know further.

I don't know how or why, but suddenly now, after about 8 months she called me and told me to analyze his handwriting. The first thing that struck me was the violent nature. Also, the stress factor in signature was slightly higher than last time. I asked her if things were fine and she assured me that the curiosity got the best of her and everything else was fine. I asked her if he was extra aggressive and she said no. They have been a couple past a year now and she told me that things were still smooth and nothing is the issue. I had to confront her now. It was either that she wasn't fooling herself or maybe she was trying to fool everyone else. I told her that he is someone who would love someone a lot but is also possessive and aggressive. Not just that, he can also be violent if provoked. She didn't look surprised to me but she didn't accept the analysis and said that he was the sweetest person she met and he didn't harm anyone. I tried to explain things to her, There are times when I get so desperate for the opposite person to understand, I even show them the letters that signify the trait as if they would understand better. I realized this recently and laughed at myself for doing it Anyway, I showed her the letters and also explained that this was the honeymoon stage probably and she should try to think about it objectively. She gave me a few filmi dialouges and I didn't know what to tell her but I showed her the letters again. To this she told me that he had told her about his previous girlfriend and the reason they had broken off was because she didn't listen to him and went out with her group of friends which included boys. I don't like to interfere and be judgmental but I told her that this was upto her but from where I saw it, she was clearly ignoring the signs. She gave me a filmi answer again - What if my love is changing him? This statement is still echoing in my mind and I don't know the answer yet. I hope her love wins. Love conquers all ne?