March 2012 - New Woman Article - Write your way to Health and Happiness slowly.

An article about me, Graphology, benefits of graphology and a way to live better by writing slowly.... in the magazine - New Woman. Issue of March 2012. Life is kind...and everything cannot be perfect..a learning after reading the article...they have written everything perfectly except the contact details...;) Anyway, You know where to find me - http://sos4graphology.com/

For those who have trouble reading it, here is the draft I had sent to the mag. It is more or less the same.

Have you faced the following issues?

• Forgot to switch off the gas after keeping it on sim?
• Asked your neighbor to check if you had locked the door?
• Done with the bath but forgot to switch off the Geyser?
• Called home to check if you had switched off the lights and fan?
• Walked in the room and forgot the reason?
• Feeling more irritated about memory issues?

Each one of you reading this may be having many more experiences to share. We generally laugh about such instances but what we don’t realize is that such events can be dangerous. Why don’t we do something about this? Probably because we don’t really understand the reason behind such behaviour and label it as memory loss or ageing and accept it into our daily life.

So why do we forget? One of the reasons why we forget these activities in day today life is because our living has become fast. It has become so rapid that most of us don’t know how to handle it and hence we try to do more than 1 thing at a time. “Our mind is over worked” says Kunjal Shah, psychotherapist and counseling therapist of Don Bosco College. She adds that we have become absent minded and we really need to slow down. We have become obsessed with the peripherals of living and our daily functioning has taken a backseat because of it.

What really is happening is that our conscious mind is one track mind. We can think of only 1 thought at a time. Try it! Try not thinking about feeling cold and you will start feeling cold. So, when we jump tasks, our conscious mind forgets to register the tasks. 

Example, you are making your last chapatti and you keep the gas on sim 

– Task 1. Your kid asks for chapatti, you put this last chapatti in the basket and go to give it to him 

– Task 2. While you are out in the dining area, you see that he needs more bhaji and you give it to him 

– Task 3. In this while, your husband asks you to sit down for dinner and you do which unfortunately becomes task 4 and by now you have no memory or concern for task 1 the gas kept on sim.

These are still small frivolous sounding issues. Kunjal Shah shares a case she read in “The Man Who Mistook His Wife for a Hat and Other Clinical Tales” is a 1985 book by neurologist Oliver Sacks about a musical genius who was biologically perfect but suffered from Visual agnosia. He chose and strongly desired to focus on music and disregarded almost everything to the extent of forming an imbalance in life, of which this was a severe case says Kunjal. When we get used to our surroundings, and take the situations as granted, we slowly act mechanical. He had trained his mind for music and took other things for granted. This caused him to not use most of his other senses. If you replaced the tooth paste with foot cream, he wouldn’t notice and brush.

Slow down but how? The issues that have come up are not something new and there are thousands of articles that you must have read which talk about slowing down. Doing one thing at one time and doing it with concentration. But how? Sunayna Navani, a well known graphologist says to write slowly.

Write everything slowly. Sign to the courier boy slowly and not in haste. Sign your kid’s report card slowly. Fill details on the cheque slowly. Practice writing slowly before bed.

Benefits

• You will become less mechanical
• You will be more aware
• You will not take yourself or your surroundings for granted.
• You will understand reasons behind doing things.
• You will gain clarity
• You will understand yourself
• You will achieve good results
• Memory will definitely improve
• Your success rate will increase.

Scientifically, how will writing slowly help?

“The greatest invention of all must surely be writing. It is not just one of the foundations of civilisation: it underpins the steady accumulation of intellectual achievement. By capturing ideas in physical form, it allows them to travel across space and time without distortion, and thus slip the bonds of human memory and oral transmission, not to mention the whims of tyrants and the vicissitudes of history” says Tom Standage, author of "An Edible History of Humanity".

A pen in hand is mightier than a sword’ goes the age old saying. Most of us remember this from School. Few of us actually realize the essence of it and even fewer practice it. Handwriting is also called "Brainwriting" simply because it is a remarkable reflection of our personal styles and our patterns of behaviour.  We write with the pen which is in control of our muscles of our thumb and fingers and our limbs which also happen to occupy a huge space in our mind. Each vibration of movement is unconsciously directed by the brain says Sunayna.

When you write slowly, you start instructing and in effect controlling your mind. This helps you to take charge and be aware. Really, try it for few days before dismissing it completely. “This idea came to me last year when I wanted to control my anger. I had club strokes in my handwriting, the only way to remove them is to write slowly” says Sunayna. Club strokes are the effect of the pen thinning in the end when you write very fast.

Sunayna also made her family write slowly and found her mom breathing more deeply than usual. My aunt has become more alert than before about everything. I suggested this to a VP who felt guilty after every argument and was ready to try anything. Sadly he is still not reached where he wants but agrees that there are slow and subtle effects and it surely helps each one who is taking the effort to write slowly.

What else can Graphology help you with?

Graphology is a tool to understand yourself and the world around you BETTER. Graphology is often mistaken to be handwriting analysis but graphology is much more than that. Graphology helps us judge the mental state of the writer. It is a guide to the will power, intellect and emotions of a person and much more.

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About Sunayna - The corporate world didn't hold her interest for long and a 9 to 5 didn't appeal her one bit. So, She took a break, sorted things and converted her hobbies into her occupation. She started art with sunayna (www.artwithsunayna.wordpress.com) to teach and sell earrings and cards made from quilling and donate... and became a full time graphologist. She uses mix of Graphology, affirmations and healing to help you understand yourself and the world around you better or get a good life partner or help Organizations hire better.

About SOS

SOS4Graphology is Sunayna’s Optimum Solution for Graphology started by me, Sunayna Navani. I was hooked to graphology since 2003. I have analyzed over 5000 signature samples and 2500 drawing samples. I have analyzed signatures and helped everyone from CEO’s to housewives and would be happy to assist you too. 

IIT powai on 7th Jan

I am little late with the updates. :) IGPS had organized an event at IIT fest from 6th the 8th Jan, All graphologists were invited at the fest.

The lovely part of this fest is that the energy of youth is amazing. They are so open and receptive to comments and any feedback you give. They are not prejudiced or very rigid. It is fun analyzing them. It is also beautiful to see the courage they have to ask PERSONAL questions in front of their friends. Really a fun experience. :)

Broke the new yr resolution already?

The following post is not just for HR managers but anyone who is a manager...manager of self, manager of home and manager at work. Would request everyone to read it and share it with your loved ones.

New year Resolutions don't last more than hours. Why?
We need to quit smoking but can't. Why?
We want to spend less, but don't. Why?
We want to be more assertive, but can't. Why?

Is it really impossible to do what we want? or do we give up and not try again. So what if you broke the resolution? Is it an excuse for you not to start again? Do we need a date to start living better?

Kindly ponder over these questions before you read further. Change is the only thing permanent. One doesn't need any date to start changing. Neha is sad with her career growth. She comes to me for analysis. She understand that she has issues being assertive mostly. I show her the reason for not being assertive. She agrees. I show her the changes that she can make. She has the Information now. I ask her to practice the letters and change the sign. She practices 5 days out of 7. She starts to feel calm and understands herself better.
She gets an opportunity to apply this change in front of her boss. She tells herself that she is an an assertive person now and the past has no reason to hold her back. With this new found courage and understanding, she  answers her boss. While replying, She is happy. She is feeling elated with each passing moment.. Just till the second the boss hears her and replies in negative. The bubble bursts. She gives up and says that Graphology doesn't work and never practices again. Application fails. I check on her after a week and she tells me that it didn't work.

What does Neha not realize? -  Some trait of yours was yours for more than 20 years. You were not the most assertive person for more than 20 years. How will 7 days of work erase 20 years of a trait. Nothing is magical. So what if you failed once? Try again.

One needs to apply the information to learn. It is impossible to change overnight or in 7 days. Graphology is not magical. It shows you one of the fastest ways to make changes in your life and live better, but you have to keep applying your will and keep trying to change. Each application will have a learning. Each learning when applied again will lead you to growth.

On this note, I wish all of you a very Happy New Year. I wish you never break any resolution and become the individual you want to become. We are never give the desire without the ability to achieve it. I hope you realize that time is less and there is a long way to go.
Keep Learning,
Keep growing.
Keep Smiling :) 

ET - 9th Nov 11 - Article by Ram Charan

Have you read today's ET? There is a 2 minute citing by Ram Charan. He is a highly sought after business advisor and speaker famous among senior executives for his uncanny ability to solve their toughest business problems. For more than thirty-five years, Dr. Charan has worked behind the scenes with top executives at some of the world's most successful companies, including GE, Verizon, Novartis, Dupont, Thomson Corporation, Honeywell, KLM, Bank of America, and MeadWestvaco. He has shared his insights with many others through teaching and writing. 

Here is the link to the article Ram Charan's The talent Masters
It drives the point to have the best talent possible beautifully. The start of the article "If businesses managed their money as carelessly as they manage their people, most would be bankrupt" hits the point across. Think about it, The ability to spend money on hiring talent is definitely well spent as compared to spending money on rectifying mistakes and losses. 

A handwriting and signature analysis of the candidate is the simplest and safest way of accurately judging him/her without the candidate even being aware of it. Businesses ranging from independently owned small businesses to Fortune 500 companies have found Handwriting Analysis more helpful and beneficial than psychological personality tests in both team building and decision making. Every hiring mistake can cost the company thousands while contributing to poor moral and negative feelings among employees. We can analyse loyalty, ambition, logic, concentration level, interpersonal skills and more. 

Hence Graphological analysis becomes an excellent method to prescreen prospective employees at a fraction of the cost of personal interviews or other methods of psychological evaluation.

It is not the furniture, the location, the interiors or the revenue that will ensure success but the People you hire. Ensure you hire the best.

A graphologist feels helpless

A few people ask me how much will grapho-therapy help them. To which I always sigh and my reply is that I can honestly tell you what to do but it is upto you to do it or not.
The phrase - You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink really summarizes my feelings. I know the value and the use of the change in sign, I can tell you the correct way to sigh, show you the best way to live, I cannot make you live it though. I sometimes feel helpless when I see people struggle even when I have showed them a way out.
Grapho-therapy can work wonders if done correctly. My only request is not to give up on it and try it once for at least 6 months... and then you can come back to me and tell me that it worked :)

Vashi Cafe Chocolade - Appointment with Sunayna Navani