Even ur fears can be good!

I got a call from a lady whom I had analysed some 2-3 years back. Her daughter turned 18 and she wanted to get her Children Analysis done.

After the analysis this lady sat next to me and told me that the statement I had told her some years back actually came true. I wondered what it was and she told me that I had told her to accept her fears also, who knew what good might come from it. I asked what it was and she told me that she recently had to travel in train alone and that too in III tier.

She is very very very afraid of mice and to her dismay, she saw a small mouse in her bogey. She was so scared to see the mouse that she just couldn't fall asleep. She was trying to tell herself that it is okay and the mouse won't bother maybe and she should fall asleep but her mind just didn't come to rest. While all this was happening, she saw a hand come from the top towards her purse. She screamed and it turns out the man was arrested as the police was looking for him or something of that sorts. She didn't know the proper story but the amazing thing is that her money and passport. She thanked the mouse and though she couldn't sleep after all this excitement, she thought of connecting with me too. Though this too took long, we both giggled at this episode yesterday.

Well, what can I say, Accept ur fears. U never know what good might come out of it.

DNA Article - Jobs available, Qualified Candidates not - How to use graphology to deal with this.

Scanning through today's DNA, Whatever ounce of sleep I had in my body, went out the window because of the shock. The article says that there are Jobs available in the market but not Qualified Candidates. Here is the attached link - http://epaper.dnaindia.com/story.aspx?id=18446&boxid=26696940&ed_date=2012-05-30&ed_code=820009&ed_page=1


Here is a summary of the article, for those who don't want to read and are as lazy as me :P

• Companies must also try and retain key talent, for replacements are hard to find.
• A whopping 48% of employers in the country are experiencing difficulty in filling positions in their firms, a survey by ManpowerGroup has found.
• Particularly difficult to fill are the ranks of IT staff, engineers, sales and marketing people.
• “Access to talent is the key competitive differentiator and leaving key positions unfilled due to talent shortage will be a problem in the years to come,” says Sanjay Pandit, managing director, ManpowerGroup India.
• Undesirable geographical locations and the candidates’ quest for higher pay only make things more difficult for companies.
• Such shortage of talent leads to firms investing heavily in training new recruits, to make them productive.
• According to estimates by education services firm Aspire Human Capital Management, less than 25% of the country’s youth are employable, and get jobs compatible with their qualifications.
• The solution - Focus more on retention in jobs where recruitment is difficult, increase salaries, partner with educational institutions to create curriculums aligned to talent requirements.

Lets look at the bright side - Also, lets see how graphology can help.

• Indian Population is 1.22 billion. As per http://www.indiaonlinepages.com/population/india-current-population.html  50% of the population is 0 to 25 years, Assuming we start working after graduation, Is the article saying that 25% of that doesn't fulfill our corporate needs.
• Yes, Retaining is difficult, With the use of graphology, You can understand the very motivating factor of employee and this helps retain the employee 
• To think about it training is more difficult than retaining. Graphology helps understand and check if the person is trainable at the time of hiring and can save company huge losses.

Feel free to send Feedback or further discuss the article 

Desires

A mom brought her 20 yr old daughter to me for Children's analysis. There were very mild signs of depression and aggression in her writing and I made a note to mention it in the end.


The session started well. She actually giggled with me on few occasions. Everything seemed normal.
I mentioned that she was a rebel and the kid looked down. Mom didn't say anything. I went to the next point. I don't recall what my next point was but the mother blurting out that the child sleeps more than 16 hours a day and seems dead to her even when she is awake. I didn't know what to say. So far the session seemed so normal. I would have never guessed that even in my dreams. Thankfully, the child spoke before I had to and said, "I don't have any desires" I said that it was an ideal state according to me with respects to spirituality. To have no desires. Her mom laughed. "She is not religious or bhakti oriented" The kid and I ignored her mom for sometime, The kid looked pleased to hear that this was the ideal state for something at least.. I asked her why and how... She said "whatever I want, I never get. God is so not there. What is the point in living?" To this her mom said that she talks like this at home also and doesn't eat well.. I gave the poor kid an hour long lecture about desires, spirituality, law of attraction and affirmations and all that I have learnt in life so far. The kid hopefully seemed better. 

The conversation with kid taught me an important lesson. Not getting your desires filled can also lead you to spirituality. It might not last long, He leads us to him in more ways than one. He knows best.

Writing slowly helped someone. So happy to receive this mail

I have received this mail from a ayurvedic doctor who doesn't wish to be named. He is an amazing human being who read the article published in "New Woman" and implemented the slow writing on a patient. 


The best part is that he took the trouble to write this mail for me.

A female patient age 43yrs, approached at my clinic complaining of following symptoms

• Depression without reason, 
• Mood swings and mental disturbance with some or the other reason since last 6 to 8 months.
• Other physical Complaints when asked she said its not much 
• Sometimes feels weak, 
• Indigestion, 
• Lack of appetite,
• Irregular periods with irregular flow and duration. 
• She was more irritated and restless all the time. 
• She was not happy and unable to enjoy peace of mind . 
• She experienced negative moods and also with memory problems.

When I checked her pulse I diagnosed her as a patient into the menopausal phase with all the menopausal symptoms and second due the hormonal changes she was also affected mentally first and then physically.

Advised her with following things

1. Meditation on daily basis.
2. Walks on daily basis
3. Diet which will be easy for her to digest
4. And Advised her to do things slowly and a little thoughtfully. Like whenever she writes she should try and write slowly rather than hurry and try to finish faster.
5. Adv her to do all her physical activities with a stable speed like walking, talking and writing too
6. As I had read a article that if we write slowly it also helps to improve memory and mental irritation or problems with a confused overstressed mind.
7. Rest all was taken care by the medicines I had given.

After 2 wks of this advice  when the patient came for a routine followup she presented herslf as follows

1.       I am felling much better

2.       I am feeling happy internally

3.       I am not confused as I was

4.       My digestion is also better

5.       I am feeling fresh

6.       I feel like doing things and there is much reduced –ve  thoughts and mental irritation.

I asked are u doing ur meditation regularly and the other thing what I had advised. She said yes. And also mentioned That writing reading and doing my actions at a little slow speed than what I was doing is helping me to do my things more confidently. I am able to do it with confidence and relaxed my. Initially I was worried for all the things that I used to do and not at all satisfied.Now I can also remember things better than before.

Listening to this even I thought that she had surely benefitted from the type of attitude towards doing things slowly has helpd her to gain her physical and mental health back to normal.

She herself said she was feeling 10 to 20 % better just in 15 days.

I was really happy and thanks to u sunayna for writing the article.

Thanks

It feels so good to receive genuine feedback and having helped someone. There are so many gimmicks that we see around and one feels that we may lose out on marketing. And when one writes an article, there is always a cloud of fear whether people will actually read the whole article and understand it the way it is meant. So when you receive something you know is genuine and so fantastic, it sends you on cloud 9. I am happier than i was at the time of the article's publication :P

IIT powai on 7th Jan

I am little late with the updates. :) IGPS had organized an event at IIT fest from 6th the 8th Jan, All graphologists were invited at the fest.

The lovely part of this fest is that the energy of youth is amazing. They are so open and receptive to comments and any feedback you give. They are not prejudiced or very rigid. It is fun analyzing them. It is also beautiful to see the courage they have to ask PERSONAL questions in front of their friends. Really a fun experience. :)

Broke the new yr resolution already?

The following post is not just for HR managers but anyone who is a manager...manager of self, manager of home and manager at work. Would request everyone to read it and share it with your loved ones.

New year Resolutions don't last more than hours. Why?
We need to quit smoking but can't. Why?
We want to spend less, but don't. Why?
We want to be more assertive, but can't. Why?

Is it really impossible to do what we want? or do we give up and not try again. So what if you broke the resolution? Is it an excuse for you not to start again? Do we need a date to start living better?

Kindly ponder over these questions before you read further. Change is the only thing permanent. One doesn't need any date to start changing. Neha is sad with her career growth. She comes to me for analysis. She understand that she has issues being assertive mostly. I show her the reason for not being assertive. She agrees. I show her the changes that she can make. She has the Information now. I ask her to practice the letters and change the sign. She practices 5 days out of 7. She starts to feel calm and understands herself better.
She gets an opportunity to apply this change in front of her boss. She tells herself that she is an an assertive person now and the past has no reason to hold her back. With this new found courage and understanding, she  answers her boss. While replying, She is happy. She is feeling elated with each passing moment.. Just till the second the boss hears her and replies in negative. The bubble bursts. She gives up and says that Graphology doesn't work and never practices again. Application fails. I check on her after a week and she tells me that it didn't work.

What does Neha not realize? -  Some trait of yours was yours for more than 20 years. You were not the most assertive person for more than 20 years. How will 7 days of work erase 20 years of a trait. Nothing is magical. So what if you failed once? Try again.

One needs to apply the information to learn. It is impossible to change overnight or in 7 days. Graphology is not magical. It shows you one of the fastest ways to make changes in your life and live better, but you have to keep applying your will and keep trying to change. Each application will have a learning. Each learning when applied again will lead you to growth.

On this note, I wish all of you a very Happy New Year. I wish you never break any resolution and become the individual you want to become. We are never give the desire without the ability to achieve it. I hope you realize that time is less and there is a long way to go.
Keep Learning,
Keep growing.
Keep Smiling :) 

Hope her LOVE wins

I am probably not the right person to understand the madness that comes along with love but I sure hope that there is some sense in that madness. I met this really pretty lady, almost the same age as mine who came to me for Pre-marriage Compatibility. She had come for signature analysis first and I told her all I could about the guy. She seemed satisfied. I told her that the sign tells you about how he is to the outside world and not his true personality. She was happy with the signature analysis and didn't want to know further.

I don't know how or why, but suddenly now, after about 8 months she called me and told me to analyze his handwriting. The first thing that struck me was the violent nature. Also, the stress factor in signature was slightly higher than last time. I asked her if things were fine and she assured me that the curiosity got the best of her and everything else was fine. I asked her if he was extra aggressive and she said no. They have been a couple past a year now and she told me that things were still smooth and nothing is the issue. I had to confront her now. It was either that she wasn't fooling herself or maybe she was trying to fool everyone else. I told her that he is someone who would love someone a lot but is also possessive and aggressive. Not just that, he can also be violent if provoked. She didn't look surprised to me but she didn't accept the analysis and said that he was the sweetest person she met and he didn't harm anyone. I tried to explain things to her, There are times when I get so desperate for the opposite person to understand, I even show them the letters that signify the trait as if they would understand better. I realized this recently and laughed at myself for doing it Anyway, I showed her the letters and also explained that this was the honeymoon stage probably and she should try to think about it objectively. She gave me a few filmi dialouges and I didn't know what to tell her but I showed her the letters again. To this she told me that he had told her about his previous girlfriend and the reason they had broken off was because she didn't listen to him and went out with her group of friends which included boys. I don't like to interfere and be judgmental but I told her that this was upto her but from where I saw it, she was clearly ignoring the signs. She gave me a filmi answer again - What if my love is changing him? This statement is still echoing in my mind and I don't know the answer yet. I hope her love wins. Love conquers all ne?

The listening problem

A skilled graphologist can understand if an individual is open to new ideas or is someone who is adamant and likes to do things on his own.

Sometimes, even a skilled graphologist can go wrong. :)

I recently met a very self made man, someone who had defied all the customs possible and made life on his own. His handwriting pointed out that he was not a very good listener and didn't really accept advice as graciously as one should.

I told him that, and he said I was wrong. This was my 2nd or 3rd point but he said that he listens to everyone. There was no way I was wrong. I tried to give him examples so I could explain my point. He refused. I couldn't really argue with such a senior business man...but this was so wrong. He just didn't budge, he was proving my point and I tried to point it out, but he still didn't agree. He told me to move on.

I carried on with my points and soon he started developing his trust. We came to the main reason for his analysis and I gave him the reasons. I was telling him something about his wife and the point drifted to how businessmen have to act in a way to be accepted by society. He said he understood it and we discussed how people close to us can nag us and constantly give ideas to help us improve. He then came to the listening point again and told me that he too faces the same issue. He had 3 wellwishers who always told him the right way of doing things. Like when one of them told him that the business won't work and his wife would come on the road, he transferred one of his flats on his wife's name and made his wife secure with a fd deposit and made arrangements for his child in next 3 months. When his aunt told him about looking good and dressing well, he bought the best quality clothes and a really pricey car in few days.

I realized one thing, Human beings are the most complex complex beings possible. He did listen to people but only to stop them from talking. He has lost those well wishers now but is happy in his own world. I tried to point this out in a subtle way that he didn't listen to ideas because the idea made sense, but only to prove a point and hence it showed in his handwriting but I don't think he was ready for that yet.

Vashi Cafe Chocolade - Appointment with Sunayna Navani

My Doctor's handwriting

I was chatting with my doc when he told me to analyze his signature. I had the time and said to myself - Why not?

When I saw that he suffered from backache, my initial bias told me not to tell him.

Later As i realized that there were a lot of other things that got clubbed together and the backache trait was prominent, I decided to tell him but I chose my words carefully. I said, “I know that you are a doctor and might have treated it by now, but your signature shows that you suffer from back ache”

He replied “Yes, doctors also die u know”

To which I smiled and justified “Ya, but I thought u must have treated it by now”

He explained that there was a small formation in his back and it would trigger due to stress only and he didn't say much and we went to the next topic

Anyway, I realized that how prejudiced I can be... not just like a graphologist but also as an human being. We assume that our docs are close to God. For some reason don’t we all assume that nothing bad can happen to them?