Writing slowly helped someone. So happy to receive this mail

I have received this mail from a ayurvedic doctor who doesn't wish to be named. He is an amazing human being who read the article published in "New Woman" and implemented the slow writing on a patient. 


The best part is that he took the trouble to write this mail for me.

A female patient age 43yrs, approached at my clinic complaining of following symptoms

• Depression without reason, 
• Mood swings and mental disturbance with some or the other reason since last 6 to 8 months.
• Other physical Complaints when asked she said its not much 
• Sometimes feels weak, 
• Indigestion, 
• Lack of appetite,
• Irregular periods with irregular flow and duration. 
• She was more irritated and restless all the time. 
• She was not happy and unable to enjoy peace of mind . 
• She experienced negative moods and also with memory problems.

When I checked her pulse I diagnosed her as a patient into the menopausal phase with all the menopausal symptoms and second due the hormonal changes she was also affected mentally first and then physically.

Advised her with following things

1. Meditation on daily basis.
2. Walks on daily basis
3. Diet which will be easy for her to digest
4. And Advised her to do things slowly and a little thoughtfully. Like whenever she writes she should try and write slowly rather than hurry and try to finish faster.
5. Adv her to do all her physical activities with a stable speed like walking, talking and writing too
6. As I had read a article that if we write slowly it also helps to improve memory and mental irritation or problems with a confused overstressed mind.
7. Rest all was taken care by the medicines I had given.

After 2 wks of this advice  when the patient came for a routine followup she presented herslf as follows

1.       I am felling much better

2.       I am feeling happy internally

3.       I am not confused as I was

4.       My digestion is also better

5.       I am feeling fresh

6.       I feel like doing things and there is much reduced –ve  thoughts and mental irritation.

I asked are u doing ur meditation regularly and the other thing what I had advised. She said yes. And also mentioned That writing reading and doing my actions at a little slow speed than what I was doing is helping me to do my things more confidently. I am able to do it with confidence and relaxed my. Initially I was worried for all the things that I used to do and not at all satisfied.Now I can also remember things better than before.

Listening to this even I thought that she had surely benefitted from the type of attitude towards doing things slowly has helpd her to gain her physical and mental health back to normal.

She herself said she was feeling 10 to 20 % better just in 15 days.

I was really happy and thanks to u sunayna for writing the article.

Thanks

It feels so good to receive genuine feedback and having helped someone. There are so many gimmicks that we see around and one feels that we may lose out on marketing. And when one writes an article, there is always a cloud of fear whether people will actually read the whole article and understand it the way it is meant. So when you receive something you know is genuine and so fantastic, it sends you on cloud 9. I am happier than i was at the time of the article's publication :P

March 2012 - New Woman Article - Write your way to Health and Happiness slowly.

An article about me, Graphology, benefits of graphology and a way to live better by writing slowly.... in the magazine - New Woman. Issue of March 2012. Life is kind...and everything cannot be perfect..a learning after reading the article...they have written everything perfectly except the contact details...;) Anyway, You know where to find me - http://sos4graphology.com/

For those who have trouble reading it, here is the draft I had sent to the mag. It is more or less the same.

Have you faced the following issues?

• Forgot to switch off the gas after keeping it on sim?
• Asked your neighbor to check if you had locked the door?
• Done with the bath but forgot to switch off the Geyser?
• Called home to check if you had switched off the lights and fan?
• Walked in the room and forgot the reason?
• Feeling more irritated about memory issues?

Each one of you reading this may be having many more experiences to share. We generally laugh about such instances but what we don’t realize is that such events can be dangerous. Why don’t we do something about this? Probably because we don’t really understand the reason behind such behaviour and label it as memory loss or ageing and accept it into our daily life.

So why do we forget? One of the reasons why we forget these activities in day today life is because our living has become fast. It has become so rapid that most of us don’t know how to handle it and hence we try to do more than 1 thing at a time. “Our mind is over worked” says Kunjal Shah, psychotherapist and counseling therapist of Don Bosco College. She adds that we have become absent minded and we really need to slow down. We have become obsessed with the peripherals of living and our daily functioning has taken a backseat because of it.

What really is happening is that our conscious mind is one track mind. We can think of only 1 thought at a time. Try it! Try not thinking about feeling cold and you will start feeling cold. So, when we jump tasks, our conscious mind forgets to register the tasks. 

Example, you are making your last chapatti and you keep the gas on sim 

– Task 1. Your kid asks for chapatti, you put this last chapatti in the basket and go to give it to him 

– Task 2. While you are out in the dining area, you see that he needs more bhaji and you give it to him 

– Task 3. In this while, your husband asks you to sit down for dinner and you do which unfortunately becomes task 4 and by now you have no memory or concern for task 1 the gas kept on sim.

These are still small frivolous sounding issues. Kunjal Shah shares a case she read in “The Man Who Mistook His Wife for a Hat and Other Clinical Tales” is a 1985 book by neurologist Oliver Sacks about a musical genius who was biologically perfect but suffered from Visual agnosia. He chose and strongly desired to focus on music and disregarded almost everything to the extent of forming an imbalance in life, of which this was a severe case says Kunjal. When we get used to our surroundings, and take the situations as granted, we slowly act mechanical. He had trained his mind for music and took other things for granted. This caused him to not use most of his other senses. If you replaced the tooth paste with foot cream, he wouldn’t notice and brush.

Slow down but how? The issues that have come up are not something new and there are thousands of articles that you must have read which talk about slowing down. Doing one thing at one time and doing it with concentration. But how? Sunayna Navani, a well known graphologist says to write slowly.

Write everything slowly. Sign to the courier boy slowly and not in haste. Sign your kid’s report card slowly. Fill details on the cheque slowly. Practice writing slowly before bed.

Benefits

• You will become less mechanical
• You will be more aware
• You will not take yourself or your surroundings for granted.
• You will understand reasons behind doing things.
• You will gain clarity
• You will understand yourself
• You will achieve good results
• Memory will definitely improve
• Your success rate will increase.

Scientifically, how will writing slowly help?

“The greatest invention of all must surely be writing. It is not just one of the foundations of civilisation: it underpins the steady accumulation of intellectual achievement. By capturing ideas in physical form, it allows them to travel across space and time without distortion, and thus slip the bonds of human memory and oral transmission, not to mention the whims of tyrants and the vicissitudes of history” says Tom Standage, author of "An Edible History of Humanity".

A pen in hand is mightier than a sword’ goes the age old saying. Most of us remember this from School. Few of us actually realize the essence of it and even fewer practice it. Handwriting is also called "Brainwriting" simply because it is a remarkable reflection of our personal styles and our patterns of behaviour.  We write with the pen which is in control of our muscles of our thumb and fingers and our limbs which also happen to occupy a huge space in our mind. Each vibration of movement is unconsciously directed by the brain says Sunayna.

When you write slowly, you start instructing and in effect controlling your mind. This helps you to take charge and be aware. Really, try it for few days before dismissing it completely. “This idea came to me last year when I wanted to control my anger. I had club strokes in my handwriting, the only way to remove them is to write slowly” says Sunayna. Club strokes are the effect of the pen thinning in the end when you write very fast.

Sunayna also made her family write slowly and found her mom breathing more deeply than usual. My aunt has become more alert than before about everything. I suggested this to a VP who felt guilty after every argument and was ready to try anything. Sadly he is still not reached where he wants but agrees that there are slow and subtle effects and it surely helps each one who is taking the effort to write slowly.

What else can Graphology help you with?

Graphology is a tool to understand yourself and the world around you BETTER. Graphology is often mistaken to be handwriting analysis but graphology is much more than that. Graphology helps us judge the mental state of the writer. It is a guide to the will power, intellect and emotions of a person and much more.

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About Sunayna - The corporate world didn't hold her interest for long and a 9 to 5 didn't appeal her one bit. So, She took a break, sorted things and converted her hobbies into her occupation. She started art with sunayna (www.artwithsunayna.wordpress.com) to teach and sell earrings and cards made from quilling and donate... and became a full time graphologist. She uses mix of Graphology, affirmations and healing to help you understand yourself and the world around you better or get a good life partner or help Organizations hire better.

About SOS

SOS4Graphology is Sunayna’s Optimum Solution for Graphology started by me, Sunayna Navani. I was hooked to graphology since 2003. I have analyzed over 5000 signature samples and 2500 drawing samples. I have analyzed signatures and helped everyone from CEO’s to housewives and would be happy to assist you too. 

Ideal Children

Most Children analysis(Indepth analysis + therapy  for kids at 1/6th the cost) that I do is of kids who are mostly from pretty well to do families. I have noticed that most of them have this one trait in common. I am not saying all but most lack the ability to maintain. This has the following manifestations

• Take things for granted
• Don't value the cost of things
• Throw away things after using it once - eg. CD's will be w/o covers etc
• Will also destroy relationships 

In life, this happens because of ...

• Asking and receiving it from parent - There is no sense of struggle and achievement
• Parents are too busy making money and believe that gifting is a way to make up for it.  

There must be a lot of other reasons also, but these are the common ones.

I recently analysed someone's kid who didn't have this trait. The father is at a very senior position and the lady too works. The son didn't have this trait. A very humble kid. I was so happy to see this. I shared my happiness with the father after the discussion with the kid was over.

The father disclosed that he has struggled to reach at this position... he has seen a lot of brats and didn't want to create one more. I was so happy to be in the company of someone so enlightened. 

He shared a few pointers that I hope will help you.

• He gives the kid almost whatever he wants but ensures that there is a waiting period. The kid should ask atleast 5 to 6 times and justify the game or whatever...
• They truly do spend time together. They are very alike. Father doesn't have much hobbies besides music, nature and walking. Kid is football crazy. They didn't let this stop them. The father plays football just to be with the kid. How nice?
• They also take annual vacations in rural parts of India or small hill station. The father believes that this keeps the kid grounded. 

Hope this small anecdote brings you closer to your kid and helps him maintain relationships and things in life.

Keep loving,

Keep smiling.

Keep your remote control with you.

Some people think that a graphologist has some miracle cure that will take them out of any situation they fall into, Some people find it easier to give away their control and let someone manage their life instead. Sadly, Life doesn't work that way. A graphologist can use the science he or she knows and show you what is wrong. A graphologist can then tell you about the changes that you can implement  and lead a better life but the implementation has to be done by you na? You have to keep your control with you. It is so strange, people hold so strongly to the remote control of the tv but let go of their controls so easily.

In continuation, this reminds me of one more story where I was telling a lady something very similar. I told her that she had to help herself. She looked at me a little astonished. I thought that she didn't understand what sort of help, so I told her that she had to stop waiting for other people to come and help and she was to take charge. To this she replied, "I always thought that I was to help others. Am I to help myself also?" I told her that she has already started helping herself and this meeting with me was a big indication of that. Her face that looked tensed earlier changed into a smile and she seemed as happy as a student does on receiving a star. :)

The process is the cure.

I believe graphology is the only medium where the process of analysis becomes the cure in itself.

There is nothing much needed after the analysis session. I see individuals feel the impact with each statement. It is like every truth is setting them free. Each statement of analysis helps you heal yourself and uncover your true self like the layers of the onion...and just like the onion, you realize there is nothing much to you. We worry so unnecessarily. We worry and form an image and use that image to scare ourselves. There are times when people call me for 4 to 5 days at a stretch, ask all the possible questions in the world related to graphology and end up not coming to me at all. Maybe coming to an analysis includes letting go of fear.

Maybe those who come to me are already on the journey to heal themselves.